Sometimes I have this recurring dream about HOWARD.
I dream HOWARD corners me in the street and begs forgiveness for the way he treated me. He admits he took his personal problems out on me and he’s sorry now, now that his troubles are resolved. He’s full of regret.
Emotional and sympathetic, I tell him not to worry about it. I tell him I understand. It’s water under the bridge.
I wake up annoyed at myself. You see, I learnt my lesson in real life. I’m done with making that mistake; sympathising, forgiving – and then being harassed all over again.
Whatever personal or professional troubles HOWARD had at the time – they were more than matched by the one’s he gave me.
He’ll never apologise in real life, but if he did, I like to think I have the maturity to forgive him – this time without an ounce of sympathy. Sympathy implies support.
And any sympathy I have is now reserved for the targets of bullying.
- Bullied By The Boss
- Welcome to my blog. My pen name is Eva James. I'm an aspiring writer paying the bills working as a legal secretary. Relentlessly bullied by my former boss, I looked for another job but the recession hit. Feeling trapped, I recorded everything in this blog, which serves as a revealing insight into workplace bullying. WEEK 1 starts the story and, as the weeks progress, you'll note what starts as banter soon spirals out of control. Sadly, it's all true. Whilst along the way I've found alternative employment, my passion for blogging about workplace bullying remains. Trevor Griffiths, legendary theatre, TV and film writer said at the outset, "I like the writing a lot: smart, cool, placed. If you were prepared/able to take your prick of a boss on, you'd marmelise him."