If there’s one thing I’d warn targets of workplace bullying about – it’s the dangers of the extended present.
Extended present is where the prolonged bullying has gone on so long that it consumes target and perpetrator. Both employees become sucked into the atrocious drama of it all. It certainly happened to me. HOWARD was obsessed with bullying and harassing me; playing games by dragging in unwitting people to join him. I was obsessed with proving him wrong and eventually being in a position to expose him for what he was.
The bottom line is that the poisonous atmosphere in work becomes the only air you breathe; it consumes you. Past and future melt away. You shut down socially. If it goes on for too long, it seems you exist only to participate in a toxic game. Thus, present time is stretched indefinitely.
It’s nothing more than a coping mechanism, but the longer you remain in the extended present, the more damaging it is. The more you detach from a regular way life, the harder it is to it pick back up.
So it was a wonderful thing yesterday to have worked for my new firm for exactly a year. My employment lawyer boss laughed and said “Damn! It’s too late to sack you!” “Don’t think I’m not fully aware my employment rights just kicked in!” I replied, laughing too.
But the real good news is that the year has flown. Time seems to have righted itself.
I hope it’s working properly for you too.
- Bullied By The Boss
- Welcome to my blog. My pen name is Eva James. I'm an aspiring writer paying the bills working as a legal secretary. Relentlessly bullied by my former boss, I looked for another job but the recession hit. Feeling trapped, I recorded everything in this blog, which serves as a revealing insight into workplace bullying. WEEK 1 starts the story and, as the weeks progress, you'll note what starts as banter soon spirals out of control. Sadly, it's all true. Whilst along the way I've found alternative employment, my passion for blogging about workplace bullying remains. Trevor Griffiths, legendary theatre, TV and film writer said at the outset, "I like the writing a lot: smart, cool, placed. If you were prepared/able to take your prick of a boss on, you'd marmelise him."