tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3360302373712651301.post2379769736191063943..comments2018-01-21T21:31:30.252+00:00Comments on Bullied By the Boss: Cry for HelpBullied By The Bosshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08406757715780652588noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3360302373712651301.post-45095380541236251992012-07-02T08:14:20.627+01:002012-07-02T08:14:20.627+01:00Thanks for sharing! On a side note, I love the way...Thanks for sharing! On a side note, I love the way you write! Your sense of humour is evident and that will be integral in helping you bounce back to your old self(speaking from experience).<br /><br />Getting back to the main subject, you raise a valid point - onlookers don't necessarily the stress and anxiety, just our reaction to it. <br /><br />The bully, of course, knows where the uncharacteristic behaviour stems from and is able to exploit it further.<br /><br />I agree with you that there is a world of difference between coping with situational stresses of life and coping with stress deliberately loaded onto you for other's enjoyment.<br /><br />You've given me much food for thought - so thanks again!Bullied By The Bosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08406757715780652588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3360302373712651301.post-40676340822414743342012-07-01T11:58:43.238+01:002012-07-01T11:58:43.238+01:00people say that i can't handle stress/pressure...people say that i can't handle stress/pressure. you could argue that BUT i know there's a world of difference between making a fool of yourself by yourself and making a fool of yourself as a reaction to influences that are MEANT to provoke stress reactions & associated negative effects/behaviour. Stress of the role/inherent to the work environment is fine & i cope because its integral. When the stress is 'artificial' in the form of bullying/manipulation/subtle provocation & intimidation [see http://www.psychologicalharassment.com/psychological_manipulation.htm for examples/effects] that hides the damaging intentions under the euphamism of 'banter'... thats when i've been uncharacteristically unconventional. Details will NOT follow but just ask around! (and let me know cus its probably not all true)<br /><br />The negative effects on my life have been profound & significant, mainly because the effects on me seem to be so much more interesting, believable & useful to bullies & onlookers alike. Whereas the psychological bullying/manipulation can be so subtle, intentionally obscure & 'veiled' that its unrecognised by onlookers (who've probably never been subject to anything like it) & unrecognised/denied by those that use it or benefit from it via the control it gives them over their environment (& entertainment value??)... to the detriment the target's wellbeing.<br /><br />But yeah, my bugbear is how the causes are never seen/acknowledged but the effects ARE seen & used for the next round of psychological bullying/manipulation. Just before my last job... i intended for the cycle to be finished. but it took on new levels of effecctiveness. There are NO coping mechanisms for such overwhelming negative influence & its effects (especially when no one wants to know)... except maybe falling onto something pointy & shiny *cue maniacal laughter*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3360302373712651301.post-40815960861315691142012-06-30T16:49:47.372+01:002012-06-30T16:49:47.372+01:00Ah, that's true!
There is absolutely a dange...Ah, that's true! <br /><br />There is absolutely a danger that if behavioural changes due to stress aren't dealt with or recognised by others, your colleagues and even your friends and family can simply accept you're 'out there' - when it's actually a situational response and nothing to do with who you are or how you'd behave under normal circumstances.<br /><br />Many thanks for taking the discussion a step further!Bullied By The Bosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08406757715780652588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3360302373712651301.post-91748370514486726362012-06-30T10:34:13.384+01:002012-06-30T10:34:13.384+01:00It always takes guts to walk back into work the da...It always takes guts to walk back into work the day after you make an almighty fool of yourself. The annoying thing is that then begins to define you in the workplace. The little you desperately squeaks 'That's not me. This is me. Over here. You only have to look." And another cycle commences. Maybe time to look for yet another job.<br />RBRJBuxtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17118083614740227316noreply@blogger.com