I was going to give loads of specific examples from HOWARD’S Grounds of Resistance as they are such outrageous lies, but my dignity wouldn't allow it. I'll give you a few though. The allegations are so outrageous it’s almost funny...
Most of his behaviour towards me, HOWARD claims, was to deter my sexual pestering. Without knowing I’ve done so, HOWARD mentions many incidents I’ve blogged about. He says I did them to myself in an attempt to get sexual attention. At one point he says he believes I quit because I didn't think he'd leave his wife! Other things, like the shredded letter from my ‘Resurrection’ blog, he claims never happened at all.
I'm so angry and upset. Even though it’s not like I didn’t see it coming. As I predicted in my WEEK 41 blog, they are alleging that I’m desperately lonely and needy because I live on my own.
The examples went on and on.
The thing that struck me as most odd is that HOWARD seems to genuinely think everyone will buy this. Okay, I live on my own and I'm divorced...that doesn't automatically make me Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction. One look at me will tell you I’m quiet and a bit shy. I’m hardworking and very active. Talk to me for a short time and you’ll realise I’m understanding, patient and probably a closet feminist at heart. I’m the last person who would use crude sexual language around the office, or log myself into match.com
as “secretarybitch” claiming in my hobbies “I enjoy self gratification on rainy days.”
I feel like I’m in the middle of an extraordinary experiment into workplace bullying. It’s hard to explain, but the allegations on both sides now are so terrible I don’t know what will happen next. HOWARD and his colleague are, as yet, unaware of the mountain of evidence I’ve been collecting for almost a year – but they will find out soon enough.
So I guess the experiment is this:-
If I can’t prove that I was being bullied by HOWARD and employed by the biggest bunch of liars – then no one can.
Wish me luck.
See you soon. Eva x
- Bullied By The Boss
- Welcome to my blog. My pen name is Eva James. I'm an aspiring writer paying the bills working as a legal secretary. Relentlessly bullied by my former boss, I looked for another job but the recession hit. Feeling trapped, I recorded everything in this blog, which serves as a revealing insight into workplace bullying. WEEK 1 starts the story and, as the weeks progress, you'll note what starts as banter soon spirals out of control. Sadly, it's all true. Whilst along the way I've found alternative employment, my passion for blogging about workplace bullying remains. Trevor Griffiths, legendary theatre, TV and film writer said at the outset, "I like the writing a lot: smart, cool, placed. If you were prepared/able to take your prick of a boss on, you'd marmelise him."