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About Me

Welcome to my blog. My pen name is Eva James. I'm an aspiring writer paying the bills working as a legal secretary. Relentlessly bullied by my former boss, I looked for another job but the recession hit. Feeling trapped, I recorded everything in this blog, which serves as a revealing insight into workplace bullying. WEEK 1 starts the story and, as the weeks progress, you'll note what starts as banter soon spirals out of control. Sadly, it's all true. Whilst along the way I've found alternative employment, my passion for blogging about workplace bullying remains. Trevor Griffiths, legendary theatre, TV and film writer said at the outset, "I like the writing a lot: smart, cool, placed. If you were prepared/able to take your prick of a boss on, you'd marmelise him."

Wednesday, 7 July 2010

WEEK 80 Ruby Tuesday

At a little before 4pm yesterday, my solicitor e-mailed me in work to say the cheque was ready. There was a new light-hearted tone to his e-mail. I imagined him smiling and waving the cheque back and forth triumphantly, pretending he was just drying the ink.

I popped in on my way home to pick it up. We had an amicable chat, swapped pleasantries.

He recommended, with a note of kindness, I should put it all behind me. If I ever regretted not having my day in Court I should definitely take the time to visit the Tribunal, particularly if there was a sexual harassment claim listed, to see first-hand how Claimants are treated. He thinks I did the right thing.

He also reminded me again, if I was going to write about workplace bullying I would have to be careful to stay completely anonymous. I couldn’t tell anyone about any of this. It’s too small a world.

We shook hands and said goodbye like friends. He handed me a lovely letter saying he wished me all best and that I deserved every success in my future career – whatever I might choose.

I left his office and got swallowed up in the heavy swell of commuters, the hundreds of office staff leaving for home.

I want to be anonymous. I’m used to it now. There’s a real freedom in no-one knowing who you are. I want to be any one of these people in the crowd, rushing from the office.

I figure some of them will be wondering what they can do about their boss who made their day utterly miserable yet again.

I’m in the process of trying to come up with some answers and I’ll go to any lengths to ensure they never hang a name on me.

There’s no time to lose.

Lots of love,

Eva x

2 comments:

Mr Fan said...

You have so much courage, many people would be to scared to even tell management about a bully let alone going to court.

At least now they would think twice before even being like a bully in a school yard. Well Done & all the best. x

Bullied By The Boss said...

D'you know I still wonder if I shouldn't have stuck it out. I'm putting all my eggs in the awareness basket writing this book. I just wish I could do more.

The more research I do about the numbers of people going through it - the more horrified I am. You and I have gone or are going through it - and it's like pschological warfare in work.


There has to be more we can do than just lodge the ineffective grievance which will put management's back up.

I live in hope. x

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