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About Me

Welcome to my blog. My pen name is Eva James. I'm an aspiring writer paying the bills working as a legal secretary. Relentlessly bullied by my former boss, I looked for another job but the recession hit. Feeling trapped, I recorded everything in this blog, which serves as a revealing insight into workplace bullying. WEEK 1 starts the story and, as the weeks progress, you'll note what starts as banter soon spirals out of control. Sadly, it's all true. Whilst along the way I've found alternative employment, my passion for blogging about workplace bullying remains. Trevor Griffiths, legendary theatre, TV and film writer said at the outset, "I like the writing a lot: smart, cool, placed. If you were prepared/able to take your prick of a boss on, you'd marmelise him."

Saturday, 27 November 2010

WEEK 116 Can't Bully Me

I hope you saw the BBC Three documentary, Can’t Bully Me, which followed four youngsters as they tried to overcome the traumatic effects of bullying, with the help of the Red Balloon organisation.

It was very emotional. I wouldn’t wish what I went through on my worst enemy, let alone children. But it was a program of light and shade. The support the children got from Red Balloon was amazing. In fact, I took some of their advice myself yesterday.

Still unable to go to the work Christmas party, colleagues are curious. It’s only a week away now. As they discussed their dresses and gave me questioning looks, I felt under pressure to go. But I know full well, if I force myself, it will trigger a string of panic attacks. Work mates imagine I don't want to go because of a previous Christmas indiscretion. How can I explain it's because I'm terrified of being bullied and humiliated because of the way I look?

And that’s the reminder I got from Red Balloon. It’s to employ of patience. If something makes me very anxious – then that’s the way it is for the time being.

Another thing I learned is that at some point, I’m going to start looking into school bullying too. Those brave children from Can’t Bully Me taught me a lot. Maybe one day I can return the favour and give something back.

Best wishes



Mr Fan said...

Is there a link you can give me for Red Balloon.

I'm sure the decision you make on the staff xmas party will be sound. If any one considers bully you on your looks you know as fact that person is a loser, no questions asked. x

Bullied By The Boss said...

Hi Mr Fan,

Of course, Red Balloon is at They specialise in the recovery of bullied children. It's a wonderful organisation.

Thanks for your Christmas party support. Truly appreciated x

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