When we feel like we don’t quite fit in and the company we work for seems inclined to agree, it’s easy to start jumping through hoops. To rub along with our colleagues we’re likely, over time, to start behaving more like them. If the company culture is to blame someone else for mistakes, then you could be forgiven when you dump the blame on somebody else. If the company culture is to bully certain people – that person usually being you – then you might breathe a sigh of relief when another member of staff is targeted.
Sometimes, all we want is to fit in. The world of work can be a lonely old place when we don’t.
But you must always be mindful of whether you’re being socially encouraged to suppress your better qualities and behave in ways that you’d ordinarily frown on. If that’s the case, you must seek employment elsewhere. If you do make it work, it may be because you’ve fallen in with the motto ‘If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em’.
We all deserve to work somewhere where the unique qualities we bring to the workplace are encouraged and acknowledged. We all deserve to be treated with respect as an equal player.
There’s only one rule with when it comes to bullying - in whatever form it takes: If you can’t beat ‘em – leave ‘em!