Anyone reading my tweets will know I almost went AWOL this morning. I was going to go somewhere, anywhere. I couldn’t face work. I couldn’t face the Compromise Agreement. I couldn’t do it anymore. I didn’t know where I was going, but I couldn’t have cared less. I was going to ditch it and run.
That kind of panic is, in itself, a place that I never want to revisit.
I forced myself through it. I made it into work and later to the meeting, where I started crying when we started reading the Compromise Agreement.
But it dawned on me, as we read on, what my solicitor’s role was. The penny dropped. The problem was that I’d expected my solicitor to come to my rescue. I expected him to rail against the bullies. I expected him to defend me and to fight the other side. I expected him to make them pay and bring justice.
This is not what solicitors do.
You expect a white knight - you get a white flag.
Originally, for ambiguous reasons, HOWARD had launched an attack. It led to a 2 year war. His motives no longer matter. It simply had to end. This is a solicitor’s job. He/she stands between two feuding parties and tries to force peace/compromise/negotiation. They aim to get the best for their clients in the shortest possible time and, yes, they hope to earn lots of money.
My solicitor said he’s failed his client if a case gets to Tribunal. He should stop the war – period. Each week of ongoing litigation only brings his client more casualties, be they emotional or financial. I didn’t understand my solicitor on Monday, but he was on my side after all.
Thanks to him, I’m stumbling out of my trench and wondering what’s become of my world.
I’ll keep you posted.
- Bullied By The Boss
- Welcome to my blog. My pen name is Eva James. I'm an aspiring writer paying the bills working as a legal secretary. Relentlessly bullied by my former boss, I looked for another job but the recession hit. Feeling trapped, I recorded everything in this blog, which serves as a revealing insight into workplace bullying. WEEK 1 starts the story and, as the weeks progress, you'll note what starts as banter soon spirals out of control. Sadly, it's all true. Whilst along the way I've found alternative employment, my passion for blogging about workplace bullying remains. Trevor Griffiths, legendary theatre, TV and film writer said at the outset, "I like the writing a lot: smart, cool, placed. If you were prepared/able to take your prick of a boss on, you'd marmelise him."